#AffectiveTourism starts the new calendar year of 2019 with Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie words on double standards & emotions.
In our world, a man is confident but a woman is arrogant.
A man is uncompromising but a woman is a ball-breaker.
A man is assertive, a woman is aggressive.
A man is strategic, a woman is manipulative.
A man is a leader, a woman is controlling.
A man is authoritative, a woman is annoying.
The characteristic or behavior is the same, what is different is the sex. And based on the sex, the world makes assumptions, and the world treats us differently. Anytime I talk about feminism there is invariably someone who pops up and labels me angry. It is as if a woman is not allowed to feel anger.
Anger is a human emotion. And there are many things I feel angry about. One of which is the terrible injustices that comprise sexism. I am angry that women in South Korea are protesting about hidden cameras that invade their privacy.
I am angry about domestic violence all over the world. In Italy there is a woman killed every week by an intimate partner.
I am angry that in parts of Africa women cannot inherit property because they are women.
I am angry that in Latin America women are dying because governments decide that they cannot do anything about pregnancies that they no longer want.
But my feeling angry does not mean that I am an angry person.
A man who shows righteous anger is not likely to be reduced to that label of angry person.